The key to learning whether a man sees a future with you or simply wishes to waste your time is to see if he is spending on you.
For centuries, men have always spent money on women that they want to settle down with.
It is a very natural part of the mating, courting process as he is proving to her that he would financially take care of her and their children in marriage.
If a man is being stingy with you, he is either
a) wasting your time and simply using you, or
b) grooming you so that when you do get married, you will be the one to provide for the family needs and take care of the family. In essence, he is grooming you to accept more abuse from him and also grooming you to be both his sex slave and beast of burden.
You see, a man that is serious about marrying you will not think twice about spending money on you.
2:Marriage and relationship provide more benefits, financially, socially, mentally, physically to a man than to the woman.
Do not let any man tell you that you are high maintenance, a spoilt princess, a whore, a gold digger or any other demeaning words that they use to shame you into accepting and tolerating unsavoury behaviour.
There is definitely a link between money and love. A man who is stingy with his wallet is stingy with his heart – period!
People, men, in particular, invest financially in things and people that they value and love.
If he is not spending money on you, he does not value you and he does not love you .Men like these do not want to spend money on their partners or wives, do not want to be the breadwinner of the home, and do not want to protect and provide for their partners.
The unfortunate woman that he marries will end up in a marriage where she is constantly abused, raped, put down and cheated upon, because, guess what, men with such flawed & abusive character issues do not change after marriage, regardless of how pure, how young, how virginal or how submissive a woman is.
Mothers, protect your daughters from these sort of men! Fathers, do you seriously want your precious daughters to date or marry men like these?!
Ladies, avoid these men like the plague. Do not even entertain them at all. cut. them. off. quick.
This provider instinct is a very natural biological drive instilled by God into Man.
So if a guy is not showing this, he does not value you, he does not love you, he does not see a future with you, and he is grooming you to accept less than.
Luckily for you, ladies, you will be able to tell very quickly if the guy is using you and stringing you along from the 1st date! This way, you can cut off the unsavourables very quickly without wasting your time or getting emotionally attached.
On the first date, does he expect you pay?
On the second date, does he choose a cheap date or expect you to go half-sies?
Stingy, ungodly men expect you to pay on dates or go half-sies so that they can spend their money on multiple other women that they are also seeing at the same time. Not only is he not a man of honour, but dating multiple people means that he will not be making a clear-headed decision when he decides to settle on one. You cannot get to know a person properly and make a decision of settling down with them if you are chasing multiple people at the same time.
So if he asking you to pay, know that he is also dating several other women at the same time. This disrespectful and ungodly attitude will carry over in your marriage and he will cheat on you over and over again. Get out now!
A godly man understands and joyfully accepts God’s mandate of protecting and providing.
Spending money is not an issue for them.